I went into dating isolation for a few months, is it necessary? For some yes, but healing is an ongoing process, I have come to understand that relationships are how we support our healing journey whether it be intimate or friendship wise. Relationships hold a mirror to what's inside of us, therefore it's more important to enter into relationship with awareness of self, accepting that as humans there is always something that we are working on...that is life...the question would be what exactly does being healed look like? Is that the end? Are we broken then suddenly fixed? It's ongoing & what we think we fixed is merely apart of our human nature that we must keep in check by being aware of our (God)dess nature...
It is the enlightened one who knows they do not need a relationship to be their best selves, but they also need relationships to become their best selves. It is a divine dichitomy. Does your best self come flawless? As a human, I think not. Humans by nature are flawed, yet perfection, because it is by design that we are flawed. This is due to the fact we must grow to understand our Highest Nature and in order to do that we must understand our Lowest Nature. Can we know cold if we don't know hot? Understanding our lower nature requires keen observation aka awareness, coupled with experience. The purpose of relationship is experience.
So, to answer the question, no, it is not necessary that you wait until you are healed to be in a relationship. However, alone time does allow you to see your own natural tendencies without the human energetic interference of ego. There is no one to judge you while you are alone, there lies no motivation to please another while alone. The goal becomes about pleasing oneself... what pleases me? What are my innermost desires? You learn to know these and you work to accept these parts of you and then you can enter in relationship as honest as possible, including having the awareness that we are not perfection, yet here I am...and here you are...do you accept that I am ever remembering my Goddess nature and that we are here to remind each other of that very nature? Do you accept that who I know myself to be today, may not be who I am tomorrow? Do you accept me as I am?
As you elevate yourself within relationships your perspectives change and the way we experience our relationship changes too. If I believe all men are dogs, that is a faulty belief but I will see through the filter of that belief. My relationships will reflect that belief back to me. He will be a dog in my eyes therefore I will treat him that way by subconscious actions manifesting physically. I will experience his primative nature, hands down, no doubt about it. If I attract someone that does not display this nature we will eventually become "unequally yoked" because who I believe you are, is not who you are, we will vibrate apart. If who I believe you are is who you think you are,then we will vibrate for quite a while, reenacting what we believe we are, experiencing who we believe we are to each other...Until one of us awakens to the reality that who we thought we were, was an illusion, and who we are is higher in nature, then we will either adapt these beliefs together, we will vibrate apart or grow into resentment.
Most people in relationships do not realize that relationships are merely tools, tools to unlock the keys that drive us towards our higher nature OR our lower nature if we let it. The question is, do you desire a relationship that supports and reminds you of your higher nature, a relationship that supports and reminds you of your lower nature or one that acknowkedges both. Therefore, it boils down to merely a choice when deciding to enter into this relationship. Which one do YOU want?
What is the spiritual meaning to this BEE Hive?
So there is this big ass hive of bees on the side of our house. It seems like the queen bee is tired and they are protecting her until she is ready to move on... so if you know me well, you know I find synchronicity everywhere. I'm like, "The Universe is showing me this or telling me that," ...then Great Spirit leads me right to the insight I need!
If you are into animal totems, signs, and a deeper meaning to things than just what we see on the surface then read on...
What I have been feeling today is overwhelmed... I have A LOT to do and on top of it I am a full time momprenuer with my hand in many jars...I flow when there are no deadlines but that is not always a reality and the ideas around deadlines in the past made things feel like extra work for me; as well as getting distracted by one business task over another task or a mommy or household task. It always made me 2nd guess what I'm doing because I must feel joy in what I'm doing or I lose the desire to do it, so in finding my own harmony between my creative space and work, I have gained little nuggets that have helped me to break through and keep pushing with discipline...but I have been seeking the bigger picture between merging spirituality and business, harmonizing these two without feeling separate...
So anywho, I was just expressing to one of my girlfriends and my husband about how I was feeling about my work life balance...my girlfriend told me to hire out, maybe get an assistant, my husband told me it was a good problem to have, then we began discussing the bees and not wanting to kill them, then we got into a humourous exchange of how mother nature sees us humans and how we treat her and etc...so of course we called a beekeeper for advice first...but as soon as we were talking about mother nature, the wind blew and broke the giant mirror on the side of the house where the bees were, so of course we didnt want chards of giant glass everywhere so we went & cleaned it up...the bee's were no bother, I was even, maybe foolishly thinking of letting the bees coexist for a bit maybe for some honey or something, it was definitely just a thought, too many what if's... but I took the mirror breaking as representation of a breakthrough. I havent looked that up, I trust my spirit on that one because my spirit was already telling me what was going on with me and the bees before connecting the two but I was curious at what the bees were trying to tell me...
On google, I look up the "metaphysical meaning of a traveling beehive on house" I clicked on the link where my spirit led me and something made me skip the first 8 paragraphs completely and the paragraph that came to my awareness said this,
"Bee spirit animal challenges us to accept the roles we have in life. There is a value to dividing up labor and having a job description. There’s a security and a freedom in that. When we embrace the work we have to do in our lives and really put ourselves into it, we can truly benefit the whole. Of course, the downside of this is when we go numb to the routine of life. The bee totem animal can help us find the joy and the creativity in playing our discrete roles. By not being everything to everybody or not being the queen bee, we can specialize, focus on the work at hand, and be really good at what we do."
This was nothing but confirmation for me...another funny synchronicity is the bee people said they will leave in 48 to 72hrs & I'm leaving town within 48 to 72hrs for a Holistic Wellness event my Spirit sister & I are WORKING at! I get excited about the subtle AND the not so subtle signs the Universe throws my way! That's the joy in the journey for me...that's how I see the light within chaos...chaos is always trying to tell me something. I am always seeking ways of showing up more alive and vibrant not withering away in a rat race🙏🏾