I went into dating isolation for a few months, is it necessary? For some yes, but healing is an ongoing process, I have come to understand that relationships are how we support our healing journey whether it be intimate or friendship wise. Relationships hold a mirror to what's inside of us, therefore it's more important to enter into relationship with awareness of self, accepting that as humans there is always something that we are working on...that is life...the question would be what exactly does being healed look like? Is that the end? Are we broken then suddenly fixed? It's ongoing & what we think we fixed is merely apart of our human nature that we must keep in check by being aware of our (God)dess nature...
It is the enlightened one who knows they do not need a relationship to be their best selves, but they also need relationships to become their best selves. It is a divine dichitomy. Does your best self come flawless? As a human, I think not. Humans by nature are flawed, yet perfection, because it is by design that we are flawed. This is due to the fact we must grow to understand our Highest Nature and in order to do that we must understand our Lowest Nature. Can we know cold if we don't know hot? Understanding our lower nature requires keen observation aka awareness, coupled with experience. The purpose of relationship is experience.
So, to answer the question, no, it is not necessary that you wait until you are healed to be in a relationship. However, alone time does allow you to see your own natural tendencies without the human energetic interference of ego. There is no one to judge you while you are alone, there lies no motivation to please another while alone. The goal becomes about pleasing oneself... what pleases me? What are my innermost desires? You learn to know these and you work to accept these parts of you and then you can enter in relationship as honest as possible, including having the awareness that we are not perfection, yet here I am...and here you are...do you accept that I am ever remembering my Goddess nature and that we are here to remind each other of that very nature? Do you accept that who I know myself to be today, may not be who I am tomorrow? Do you accept me as I am?
As you elevate yourself within relationships your perspectives change and the way we experience our relationship changes too. If I believe all men are dogs, that is a faulty belief but I will see through the filter of that belief. My relationships will reflect that belief back to me. He will be a dog in my eyes therefore I will treat him that way by subconscious actions manifesting physically. I will experience his primative nature, hands down, no doubt about it. If I attract someone that does not display this nature we will eventually become "unequally yoked" because who I believe you are, is not who you are, we will vibrate apart. If who I believe you are is who you think you are,then we will vibrate for quite a while, reenacting what we believe we are, experiencing who we believe we are to each other...Until one of us awakens to the reality that who we thought we were, was an illusion, and who we are is higher in nature, then we will either adapt these beliefs together, we will vibrate apart or grow into resentment.
Most people in relationships do not realize that relationships are merely tools, tools to unlock the keys that drive us towards our higher nature OR our lower nature if we let it. The question is, do you desire a relationship that supports and reminds you of your higher nature, a relationship that supports and reminds you of your lower nature or one that acknowkedges both. Therefore, it boils down to merely a choice when deciding to enter into this relationship. Which one do YOU want?
La'Sage is an a Spiritual Author, Artist, & Holistic Wellness Practitioner that loves finding creative ways to express herself and seeks to share her spiritual view on practical matters.